Discovering Your Strengths
My approach is to accentuate these positive aspects of your outlook, while using our time together to uncover the root causes of discomfort and pain. In the knowledge and acknowledgment of those underlying causes, the therapeutic process begins.
My process involves thoughtful research into the nature of life in general, and into your life in particular. What is “the good life” of which Bertrand Russell speaks? How do you define it? What are your expectations? What improvements can you realistically make to achieve your objectives? How are your successes and failures a result of your own self-concept and self-esteem? To what degree are you being held back by behavior which is simply a coping mechanism masking a deeper problem?
Working Toward a Common Goal
I view psychotherapy as a gradual process of learning and unlearning – unlearning, in many cases, deeply ingrained belief systems and contradictory behavior patterns. I see our roles as that of teacher and student. As your teacher, it is my responsibility to speak to you in terms that you understand. You can expect straight talk, directness, clarity and honesty. You can also expect my total loyalty to you and your quest. Occasionally, you may disagree with my understanding and convictions about human nature and reality, but we are a team in the process, with a common goal. During this ongoing exchange, you will begin to understand and appreciate your own persona within the larger context of the world you inhabit.
Making Decisions About Change
Right now, you are living as best you know how. Together, we will discover ways that you can enjoy life more. Many times, you will find that we focus not on philosophy, but the everyday goings-on of your life and how “little things” affect you. Along the way, with my guidance, you will doubtless make many decisions about how to change your approach. I do not have all the answers. Rather than give you advice, I prefer to teach you how to take better care of yourself. You may find that some experimentation is involved with changing behavior as you discover what works best.
Getting to Know One Another
Our exploration must take place in a warm, welcoming atmosphere of profound mutual respect and trust. Developing a trusting relationship begins with an interview session. This complimentary interview is essential for establishing common ground. You may feel free to question me on any issue of concern, asking about my concept of neurosis, for example, and about my training. I encourage you to be thorough in your research, and to ask these same questions of other therapists you may be considering.
Choosing a therapist is a very important decision, and making the right match requires some research and analysis. Making an educated decision is key to achieving your objectives. You have been judging people all your life, probably with a good measure of success. Use that good judgment now. Listen to your instincts.
Best wishes in your pursuit of a happier life.
– Deana Bacon